It is said that more than half of the adult population participated in some form of sexual play as a child and, most of the time, this play was in the form of playing doctor, undressing in front of another child, and looking at another child’s genitals. This perfectly normal behavior takes place between children of opposite genders, same genders and even brothers and sisters.
It doesn't indicate that you’re raising a sexual deviant or anything. But nevertheless, most parents are upset when they come across their child engaging in any form of sexual play with another child.
Children are naturally interested creatures and one of the things we’re curious about from an early age is our own and other people’s bodies. We’re constantly comparing ourselves with others and noticing the similarities and differences. This is what the vast majority of children are doing when they are engaging in sex play. They are trying on the different roles they see around them. Sometimes these behaviors lead to touching each other’s bodies where they may discover that it feels good. This is a natural part of development.
So it is not unusual for young children to remove their clothes and to look at and even touch each other's genital areas. It is when explicit behaviors occur that the alarms bells should sound. Left to their own devices, children do not simulate the sorts of sexual behaviors in which adults engage. Children do not naturally engage in any kind of sexual play which involves pain, simulated intercourse, penetration, or mouth-to-genitals.
They also do not interact this way with other children who are more than a few years older/younger than themselves.
If they do so, it is due to some form of exposure to such information: e.g., witnessing sexual acts between adults or others, viewing such behavior in movies or videos or even being sexually abused.
This is when you need to be concerned, to investigate and to seek expert advice if necessary
But back to normal curiosity… What matters is how YOU handle the situation.
Often parents decide to ignore the behavior because they realize it will eventually cease, and the children will move onto other forms of play which do not involve the genitalia.
If you are just not comfortable with having this type of behavior in your home, you can calmly ask the children to stop, get dressed, and play in a more public area of the house without closed doors.
A bad reaction from a parent could result in feelings of shame and guilt about sexual activity for your child
This could last well into adulthood.
Regardless of what you decide to do, this situation is the perfect opportunity to talk to your child or children. Chat about their curiosity and let them know that this is normal, and that you’re there to answer any questions they might have. This is also the time to talk about your values with regard to sex and relationships. It is during this quiet talking time that it’s okay for you to let your child know that you think it would be best if they played other games and kept their clothes on.
Healthy childhood sexual development begins at home. Ideally, both parents need to model appropriate behaviors and attitudes about sexuality. If parents are comfortable and responsible with their sexuality, their children are more likely to develop healthy sexuality.
It's only natural that our children want to know about it
This is because sexuality is a central part of life. Parents must take the initiative and teach their children about sex, or they will run the risk of their kids learning about it from some place besides the home. A delay in sex education results in a child's heightened curiosity